Just yesterday, returned home and reluctantly was going about the mails, sorting through mostly yet again, credit card and personal loan offers to get to some proposal mails that I should have got a couple of days back.
Boring stuff mostly, but just then I got hit by a unexpected forward of a mail from a friend. She was bitter about or at least supportive of the embitterment one would surround the way the movie ‘Cocktail’ turned out to be in its portrayal of ‘women being subdue by society and sacrificing greatness inorder to be accepted.
I was a nice read indeed …. but then got me thinking about what would I do, had I been the protagonist in the movie. Who would I choose, had I a choice, given I’d be there myself pretty soon.
Sure, a woman can do all that great deeds rather than make hot phulkas, but it’s exaggerating and undermining her traditional role in some aspects for whatever reason. However, lets see a logical discourse to it.
Rather than being a COO at some million dollar company(MDC), or making hot phulkas, I would like to see a woman spend more time bringing up and caring for her children. Forget the husband and the inlaws. It’s for a reason that mom’s care is the best.Reason why in America, we had the highest incidences of junk food related child disorders like obesity, diabetes and cancers; yes by denying hot phulkas and outsourcing to pizza’s and pepsi’s. Indian children are still the healthiest even among-stthe underprivileged. Dad’s role needed, yep, but it comes in a lot later, and I’m not trying to hush that up.
A man and a woman play a complementary role in life, NOT supplementary, nature intended it that way. Current speak goes against the very fabric of nature, motivations are … sad. Take any proper man / woman and he/she’ll say ‘supportive’ rather than ‘competitive’. Women apart from faring as COOs or Hot phulka makers whichever they choose to be, are really good at organizing homes, multitasking activities, things that can keep disarray from HOME, while men would be the foot soldier who protect, guard and gather. These roles by science of are not swappable.
Tradition doesn’t say that a woman cannot be a CEO / Scientist if she can, but both, men and women have social responsibilities. And recent trend in woman empowerment, not always, but does tend to undo this sense of responsibility among women. That the greatest concern for modern guys to choose a traditional girl over the former. It’s not to enslave or undermine, just a bigger ideal at play.
Agreed that a woman should not be forced, should not be denied and be conquered, but rather be won over as an equal, but at the same time not forget the responsibilities of being a woman.
And when you say that a working woman can do great deeds towards her family, it the supportive and not the competitive aspect of her that one encourages. And then again if its for the nation, what difference does it make if the contribution came from a man or a woman, either ways, there are directly evident contributions and the subtle ones, but none the less.
Lastly, a woman does need to take care of herself well, In most cases i’m sure the woman will choose family over all others. And it is not easy. Yet to hold on to being competitive on the career front is just not as healthy. In the end sacrifice is a way, and Men do appreciate that and are ever grateful mostly. Women are articulate and cannot endure modern corrosion as a guy, that not being a bad thing and I’m not trying to down play her truer abilities. It’s not said in vain that the health of a family depends on the health of the women in it.
So judging by all the above, I give the movie does lend some credence to the modern man.What say?
Ironic yet assuring, that the plot was situated in London. The west tried all this modernization of woman a 100 yrs back, now they are limping back to the traditional way even more. Among Indian women we now find the most morbid aspirations for pseudo modernism.
PS: It’s neither being a COO or a Hot phulka maker that’s bad. Whilst striking a balance is what is important. I’ll remember that for sure, rest is luck.
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